10 Essential Rules For Picking Yourself Up

“Being defeated is often temporary, giving up makes it permanent”
~Marilyn von Savant

Mission: To uplift a mood and pick oneself up when hardships, adversity and hurdles have presented themselves.

Written by Kevin Tyler Smith. You can follow me on Twitter or Facebook

Challenges and hardships in life is a matter of “when”, not “if”. Going through the hurdles will always make us stronger in the end. It does not matter how hard you get hit, but how you can react to each experience and pick yourself up. As the saying goes, “when the going gets tough, the tough get going”.

I can attest to this.  About 8 years ago I went through a very tough period. It would be a total understatement to say I was feeling down.  I’m OK now, but as I look back, I have definitely grown stronger…and wiser because of it. I could not have gone through it without the unbelievable support system in my life.  Those who supported me were sent from above.

Today’s message may not be the most pleasant but it is something that needs to be heard.  This is something you can equip your “emotional toolbox” with and to prevent you from being too shortsighted. You never know when you will hit a home run in the direction you want to go.

You may not be born to fight, but there are certainly ways that will make you a strong leader (over your hurdles) and bold fighter (through the process). Victory will be your sweet reward.

1. Charge It To Experience

The first thing you need to learn is to always glean something from every challenge or experience. See each trouble as an opportunity to grow and learn as an individual. You can develop some of the best skills that are paramount to your personal development by observing and learning from each bad event in your life.

2. Find Some Support

Every strong person needs a stronger support system who will always be there if ever they feel like breaking down. Find the right people who can guide you through, if the situation calls for it. The size of your support group will vary depending on the occasion. Some of the common people in your circle will include your parents, siblings, friends and colleagues.

3. Search The Good

There is always something positive that you can get from every hardship or failure. Remember that if things seem to be at their worst, then everything is only meant to get better for you. Find the good in every bad occasion. Be grateful for what you currently have and not for what you have lost. There is always a chance to pick yourself up and view yourself as a more able individual.

4. Try Again

As long as you’re alive, you will always have the chance to be successful at something. You may need to try a few times before you finally reach your goal, but it isn’t over until you quit. Quitting should never be an option for you. Even the greatest people and leaders on earth lived by the saying that if they do not succeed at first, they have to keep trying.

“Fall seven times. Stand up eight”
~ Japanese Proverb

5. Do Something Fun

Some setbacks will cause you to feel like wanting to be unproductive for a few hours or days. If you feel that you need a rest from it all, take the time to do so. Try something fun to help yourself relax and unwind. Do something exciting and unique like camping, traveling to a new place or just talking to a loved one.

6. Get Away

You will need some time to recollect and think about all the things that happened before you can get back to your feet fully and be ready for the next challenge. You can take time to reminisce by checking in a nice hotel, going to a friend’s house for the weekend or just locking yourself up in your comfortable room the whole day. Make sure that you have the most conducive environment to focus and concentrate.

7. Try Something Else

It can be true that perhaps you just aren’t made for one thing which explains the recurrent failures. If you feel that you are always feeling down because of not reaching one goal, it might be better if you set another one that you can truly excel at. Try something else for a change and stick to it until you recognize your own strengths and limitations.

8. Find A Mentor

A mentor is almost similar to a support group, but has the role of guiding you regardless of the conditions. This person leads you to a point where you can independently make a decision and help you learn the lesson whether you win or lose. A mentor can be your parents, your best friend or someone who has enough experience and knowledge to let you think more clearly about the current hurdles.

9. Take Time To Unwind

Go to a club or bar, listen to your favorite song, meditate, play some video games or exercise. There are so many ways to relax and unwind and keep your mind off the problem for a while. You can go for a relaxing massage or watch your favorite TV show. It is important that you let your body rest from all the stress. Write down all the things you want to do then start doing these one by one.

10. You Are Successful

Write down all the positive things you possess. You should be optimistic all the way and see yourself as a very successful and capable person. Let go of all negative emotions and tell yourself that you can achieve anything as long as you put your heart and mind into it. Practice more and boost your confidence by treating yourself and sticking to people who appreciate you the most.

The next time you are defeated and feel down, think about it as part of a process. Get up and try again and again until you move forward.

Mission achieved!

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*photo credit: steve pepple